Ten Top Tips For Starting A New Relationship
By Linda - your psychic guide
In my psychic work I hear endless tales from my clients of broken relationships that have caused much upset and anguish to those involved. And many feel that they cannot ever see themselves being happy in a new relationship.
When we’ve been devastated by the end of a relationship, we may go into new relationships ultra cautiously as we are scared of being hurt again. But this can be a bit of ‘two edged sword’ Whilst being street-wise can help you avoid making the same mistake the next time, It can also make you so hyper alert to possible problems that you never feel relaxed. So I've put together some tips based on years of psychic experience for when you're ready to try again.
1. Let go of the past. It’s impossible to begin again whilst you still have one foot in the past and you are holding a candle for your lost love.
2. Realize you can make a choice. OK. Something bad happened. You're not a victim. You can and will move on
3. Learn who’s safe and not safe and how to be safe. Once bitten, twice shy. Learn the early warning signs that someone is not sincere and put up proper boundaries to keep people like that far away from your heart.
4. Work out what you really want. What do you want for yourself? What are you moving toward? Know what your values are and be clear about what you’re looking for in a relationship. Then, be bold about not settling for less.
5. Realize there are wonderful people everywhere. You may feel that your last partner was the world’s worse cheat but don’t forget the world’s also full of great people too!
6. Learn where to go to meet people who enjoy the same things you do. Pubs, clubs and online flirting/dating sites are never the best place to meet genuine people. Join a club and meet like minded people and also you will have more time to get to know someone and to make the right judgements. If you like to dance, take dance lessons. If you like to walk, join a walking group.
7. Hold off on the sex. Give yourself time to get to know someone before jumping in the bed. A recent survey by Sociologist Dr. Edward Lauman’s found that 85 percent of couples had known each other at least 30 days before having sex and 45 percent waited at least a year. And these were the relationships that had lasted the course.
8. Check out their “fit.” How are they around your family and friends? How comfortable are you around theirs? If your family and friends really don't like your partner are they seeing something that you're not?
9. Pay attention to their general behavior. Is this person “laid back” or is your relationship full of drama? Are there periodic temper tantrums? Regular blow outs! Take care if so.
10. Listen to your gut instincts. You have a built-in radar that alerts you when something is wrong. So, learn to respect your intuition and you will make the right choices!
If you need more in-depth advice about your relationships contact Linda for a professional psychic reading. She always happy to help.
Posted on Wed 21st Oct 2009 12:13:00