Are You Emotionally Unfaithful To Your Partner?
By Linda - Your Psychic Guide.
Do you have a really special friendship with a member of the opposite sex even though you're already attached? Have you ever imagined yourself in their arms or even in their bed. If so, you could be being unemotionally unfaithful to your partner.
SO WHAT IS BEING EMOTIONALLY UNFAITHFUL?
Some people are involved in deep, intimate friendships with others and many couples may brush them off as harmless. But this type of friendship with someone who may otherwise be interesting sexually if you weren't already attached could in a way be classed as an affair and be equally as dangerous.
BUT IS THIS REALLY THE CASE?
Probably yes! An emotional affair is usually more intimate than any ordinary friendship - even a close one. And that’s why it could really be called an affair! But is really being unfaithful?
If you or your partner are so caught up with a ‘ special’ someone, so special that you wouldn't think of sharing the conversations or experiences you have together with your actual partner, you may be in deeper than you think.
As a psychic I would say that around a third of my clients struggle with this issue and are involved in some sort of emotionally charged relationship with someone outside of their main relationship. And it’s often someone they work with. After all most people spend several hours a day at work. Is it any wonder that they get a bit to close for comfort to a colleague?
In the beginning, emotional affairs can seem innocent. The feelings that you have are wonderful, and they can give you a real buzz. You have a lot in common with the other person. You can talk to them and feel really understood. You even begin to see them as your true soul mate. But they can be dangerous! You could end up falling deeply in love.
I have many caring clients who end up in this difficult position. They don't wish to hurt the partner in their main relationship, but the emotional affair has become their main priority. A key clue to whether you are emotionally unfaithful is: "If the person you would call if you had really great news - or needed support - is the person outside of your relationship, you're already involved in an emotional affair."
Many of my clients are otherwise very faithful, but this very intimate friendship does become an affair of sorts. As their spouses end up feeling a loss of a connection to their partner, they get less attention, and there is a sense of betrayal.
Some also report having looked up an old or lost love online just for fun. But then later, they find themselves quickly being drawn into nostalgia for the past totally forgetting why the relationship didn’t work last time around. They become filled with the desire to delve further into the possibilities of what they're feeling, imagining and wishing for. And that’s often when they call me for help . Sometimes they want to know if the other person involved feels the same way - or what the future might hold for them. Others feel terrible, and want to find a way back to their real partner.
So what drives people to connect so intimately outside of their main relationship?
Sometimes emotional affairs can keep a marriage alive, because they make you feel valued. At other times, these relationships can sew the seeds of what will become full-blown affairs. Some people find these friendships to be eye-opening lessons about what they need to ask for in their main relationships. But the downside can be guilt, confusion, and wishful thinking about a future that might involve complete intimacy can result. These relationships have the potential to lead to infidelity and divorce. That's a high price to pay for something that had appeared to be a harmless friendship.
Whilst to some they can be dangerous, they can also be enlightening and liberating. Look at what this relationship is telling you about your main relationship. Never ignore or dismiss an emotional affair simply because there's no physical intimacy. It's telling you something very important about what you need, what you want - and what you have to offer.
And although emotional affairs can open your eyes - you need to work on the relationship you have, or you may well lose it. It's up to you to decide if it's the effort. If not, you must move on.
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Posted on Tue 20th Oct 2009 12:39:00